Posts By Dteb

“Of Irritability and Pearl Production”

A friend of mine today wrote that he felt “. . . restless, irritable, and discontent, which is just as bad because I know where it leads . . . .”

I responded to him that it is wise to be concerned about feelings that can (and often do) lead us down a destructive path. However, no, I do not think that these feelings are “just as bad” as what those feelings might lead to. Thinking that feelings of restlessness, irritability, and discontent are just as bad as the actions that they can lead to has several problems.

1. When I take this approach, I frequently say to myself, “Oh, what the heck! Since these feelings are just as bad as actually doing things, I might as well just give into those feelings and act on them!” And actions that are based on such feelings rarely make things (or me or other people) better.

2. Everybody that I have ever known very well admits to these kinds of uncomfortable feelings. However, many of them did not act on their crazy or uncomfortable feelings. It seemed to me that, despite those feelings, they were about as well-adjusted as any members of our species ever are. Why? Because they did not act on these feelings. Feelings and actions are not the same thing.

3. I think that approaching such feelings as restlessness, irritability, and discontent with a “they-are-just-as-bad-as-acting-on-those-feelings” attitude can sometimes prevent us from considering and changing some things about ourselves that deserve consideration and need changing. Feelings of all kinds are friends who deserve our attention. If I ask myself why I am feeling irritable and what healthy things I can do to deal with it, that feeling of irritability can lead to positive change and growth, rather than to acting out and misery.

I also reminded my friend that pearls come from irritation. Apparently, oysters only secrete the substance that becomes a pearl when they ingest a stone or peace of sand that is irritating them. They create beauty to shield them from the irritant. Oysters know how to make good use of irritations. Perhaps you and I might learn something from the oysters.

And then, I concluded my email reply by saying, “I hope that my words have not irritated you. . . . Oh, on second thought . . . !”

I have had several irritations today. I hope I’m slowly making a pearl. I’ve also helped several people (especially my wife) with their pearl production. I don’t try to be a pearl-maker, but sometimes I may inadvertently help a little.

“Living as Light Exposes the Darkness”

“Whatever is shameful to do you must not consider it honorable even to mention.” (Isocrates §15b)

Eph. 5:11 Take no part in the unfruitful works of darkness, but instead expose them.” (English Standard Version)

One of the greatest wrongs we can commit is take anything or anyone out of context. Since I believe that the Bible is God’s written Word, I think that taking the Scriptures out of context is an especially serious matter.

I sometimes hear Ephesians 5:11 quoted in order to justify Christians speaking out concerning the evils we perceive in our own society or in the societies of other nations and people groups. If we only had this verse all by itself, that might be a good understanding of it. But this verse is not alone, and the other verses that surround it suggest that using this verse to justify speaking harshly to or about other groups is nearly the opposite of what this verse means. (Of course, we are never speaking harshly, are we? No, we are “just speaking the truth in love.” But then again, it might be wise to ask ourselves if that is what we are really doing.)


We exercise our “righteous” responsibility to call out evil in others toward all kinds of people: those who believe abortion is/is not a choice, those who believe that ownership of guns is an absolute right/those who don’t, and Republicans/Democrats, to name a few.

While it may indeed be important to speak up concerning evil, that is not the thrust of Ephesians 5:11. How do I know this? Context! I had a professor at Hebrew Union College many years, Dr. Isaac Jerusalmi, who used to say quite often “Context is everything!” Sometimes, he would just say or write on the board, “C.I.E.”

What is context? It can be looked at in many ways, but in this post, I am just looking at the literary context. In other words, I am examining the words surrounding Ephesians 5:11. Here are the verses that surround verse 11. I have italicized the words that I believe call into question the aforementioned interpretation of verse 11.

Eph. 5:1 ¶ Therefore be imitators of God, as beloved children.

Eph. 5:2 And walk in love, as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us, a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.

Eph. 5:3 ¶ But sexual immorality and all impurity or covetousness must not even be named among you, as is proper among saints.

Eph. 5:4 Let there be no filthiness nor foolish talk nor crude joking, which are out of place, but instead let there be thanksgiving.

Eph. 5:5 For you may be sure of this, that everyone who is sexually immoral or impure, or who is covetous (that is, an idolater), has no inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and God.

Eph. 5:6 Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of these things the wrath of God comes upon the sons of disobedience.

Eph. 5:7 Therefore do not become partners with them;

Eph. 5:8 for at one time you were darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Walk as children of light

Eph. 5:9 (for the fruit of light is found in all that is good and right and true),

Eph. 5:10 and try to discern what is pleasing to the Lord.

Eph. 5:11 Take no part in the unfruitful works of darkness, but instead expose them.

Eph. 5:12 For it is shameful even to speak of the things that they do in secret.

Eph. 5:13 But when anything is exposed by the light, it becomes visible,

Eph. 5:14 for anything that becomes visible is light. Therefore it says,

             “Awake, O sleeper,

                        and arise from the dead,

             and Christ will shine on you.”

Eph. 5:15 ¶ Look carefully then how you walk, not as unwise but as wise,

Eph. 5:16 making the best use of the time, because the days are evil.”

Did you notice that verse 11 is followed by verse 12? I don’t mean to insult your intelligence. It is an important question. Why? It is important because verse 12 says that it is a shame for us even to speak of the evil things that others do. So, to use verse 11 to justify us “calling out” evil in others is almost the opposite of what verse 11 actually means.

“Well,” you may ask, “if we aren’t supposed to speak about the evils in our society, how on earth can we expose them?” That is a good question, and the answer is given in the context. We are to be the light and walk in the light because light is what exposes what is dark and evil. Living a light-filled life in our thoughts, words, deeds, and our very being is the best way to expose darkness.

Now, there are indeed biblical verses and stories that suggest that there is a time to speak up and speak out about the evil around us. “Proverbs 31:8-9 comes to mind:

“Speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves, for the rights of all who are destitute. Speak up and judge fairly; defend the rights of the poor and needy.” (NIV)

And speaking up for ourselves is also important at times. However, simply fulminating about things in our society—as many Christians of all stripes are prone to do these days—is itself simply another form of evil. If we want to counter the darkness of evil, we need to be the light, as Jesus himself is The light.

“The Contentment and Joy of Beginnership”

Do you feel like a beginner in an area where you should be a master? Well, join the human race, dear heart! “Impostor syndrome” (which is often a result of feeling like a beginner) is something we all struggle with in one way or another, in one area or another. Feeling like a beginner is not generally a comfortable feeling.

However, at the ripe old age of seventy-two, I have realized that I can choose to be contented and even joyous with the feeling and the reality of being a beginner.

Here is an excerpt from my 12-step report to my sponsors and accountability posse this morning:

“Dear ___________________________________,

. . .

Today, by God’s grace, I am cultivating awareness of God. Good things for me and for others will come about as I consistently do this.

It was a good affirmation, but I am not sure how much I followed through on it. I am a beginner at cultivating awareness of anything. However, Thomas Merton said that God loves beginners. I hope Merton was right, and I suspect he was.

Today, by God’s grace, I am content and joyful to be a beginner. By the end of the day, I am planning to be a little further along on my beginnership.

Daryl”

I thought that I might be coining the word “beginnership”, but I was quickly disabused of that notion. While it is not yet an official word, it was used in an article in Forbes Magazine in February of 2022 (https://www.forbes.com/sites/forbesbusinesscouncil/2022/02/09/the-power-of-beginnership-as-a-business-leader/?sh=1cfff9f17bf8, accessed 04-24-2023). So much for originality!

Some Buddhists also speak of keeping “a beginner’s mind”. This strikes me as being incredibly wise.

And why is it wise to recognize and cultivate beginnership? The answer is simple: Because we all are beginners. If we begin to think otherwise, we are already off the path of wisdom and into a thicket of bad results.

I had a fascinating exchange of emails with a student. He was responding to one of my comments on his assignment. His email invited me to think more deeply about the whole matter of biblical interpretation. I was able to encourage him, I think, by admitting that I myself am a beginner when it comes to interpretation. I also raised his grade a bit for his prompt and thoughtful response.

If the Bible is God’s Word, as I believe that it is, then we should not find it difficult to believe that we are beginners in interpretation. After all, if God is infinite (in other words, if God has no boundaries), then we ought to be humble beginners in trying to understand what God has said. We can be content and even joyful in our beginnership.

“Seventy-Two and No Fresh Regrets”

DTEB, “Seventy-Two and No Fresh Regrets”

“The old, stale regrets I’m throwing out. By God’s grace, I won’t bake any fresh ones today.” (Down to Earth Believer: An Affirmation)

Phil. 3:12 ¶ Not that I have already obtained this or am already perfect, but I press on to make it my own, because Christ Jesus has made me his own.

Phil. 3:13 Brothers, I do not consider that I have made it my own. But one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead,

Phil. 3:14 I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.

Phil. 3:15 Let those of us who are mature think this way, and if in anything you think otherwise, God will reveal that also to you.”

Today is my seventy-second birthday. By the power vested in me by me, I am declaring it a no-regrets day.

Regrets are a terrible waste of time. Therefore, they are a terrible waste of life. In fact, regrets are a slow form of suicide.

Mostly what I regret is wasting time and life, wasting opportunities to love Sharon and our children much better than I did, treating my friends and everyone else more kindly, learning more, developing better character.

However, my regrets are holding me back from doing the very things that I regret not doing in the past. So, the regrets and very regrettable, and they have to go!

Today, by the grace of God, I am focusing on present opportunities to live and love fully, to develop a character that is more capable of love, to learn. This is the birthday gift that I am giving myself, God, and others today. I plan to celebrate my birthday for an entire year, if I get to live that long. If I do get to live another year, no regrets! If not, still no regrets!

“Just Like He Said”

“Mateo 28:5-6

El ángel dijo a las mujeres: “Ustedes no teman. Sé que buscan a Jesús, el crucificado. No está aquí; ha resucitado como había dicho.”

Matthew 28:5-6

“The angel said to the women, ‘Don’t be afraid. I know that you are seeking Jesus, the crucified one. He isn’t here; he has been raised—just like he said.”

According to the Gospels, Jesus had spoken to his disciples several times about his death and resurrection. Unfortunately, the comforting words about Jesus’ resurrection fell on deaf ears. The disciples didn’t understand, didn’t believe. That is, they didn’t believe until the resurrection forced them to do so. Even then, it wasn’t easy.

Why were the disciples so blind? Well, to be perfectly frank, the Gospels portray the disciples as (how can I put this delicately?) not the sharpest tools in the shed. There was a lot of what Jesus said that they simply didn’t understand. We tend to put the first disciples (except for poor Judas) on a pedestal. The Gospels themselves don’t do that. In fact, the disciples are pretty much portrayed as stumble-bums. I take great comfort in their portrayal. At least, they were trying to stumble in the general direction of Jesus. Maybe you and I are too.

But there is another thing: Perhaps they didn’t, and maybe couldn’t, hear the words about resurrection because they could not fathom Jesus’ words about the cross. Apparently, Jesus’ first disciples wanted a king who would set things to right—right now! And, of course, that might involve some violence. If there were to be any crucifixions, it would be the Roman occupiers and their “Jewish” (??) collaborators who would be the ones hung up to die. Certainly, the Messiah wouldn’t be the one to die! Right?

Wrong. If Jesus was the Messiah—and this is widely debated and denied by many—Jesus wasn’t your garden-variety king. The kind of king that we long for is one who will destroy our enemies. Instead, Jesus died for his enemies.

So, it may be that the disciples couldn’t hear the blessed word of resurrection because they couldn’t understand the hard word of the cross. In any case, they didn’t understand and believe. Even the courageous women who came to the tomb did not make that journey to see a risen Lord. They came to anoint the hastily buried body of their teacher and friend. Everybody seems to have been blindsided by the resurrection.

The angel who spoke to the women told them not to be afraid. The Greek verb for the command “Don’t be afraid” is in the present tense. This suggests ongoing, persistent action. The angel was telling the women, “Now and always, there is no need for fear.”

Then the angel gave them the reason for not being afraid. “He is risen.” It is a wonder that the shock of this didn’t simply kill the women outright. You go to take care of the dead body of a dear friend, and discover that there isn’t a body!

But then, the angel can’t resist saying that Jesus was risen, “just as he said”. It would seem that even angels cannot resist the urge to say, “Told you so!”

“The Corrector in Chief”

Gal. 6:1 ¶ Brothers, if anyone is caught in any transgression, you who are spiritual should restore him in a spirit of gentleness. Keep watch on yourself, lest you too be tempted.

Gal. 6:2 Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.

Gal. 6:3 For if anyone thinks he is something, when he is nothing, he deceives himself.

Gal. 6:4 But let each one test his own work, and then his reason to boast will be in himself alone and not in his neighbor.”

One of the many problems with going to church is that God may get a word in edgewise. God’s edgewise word to me yesterday was not very consoling. I was made aware that I have a critical, fault-finding spirit that does not honor God or help others or myself.

This critical spirit (which I prefer to call “the Holy Spirit gift of admonishing others”) manifests itself in many ways. I give my wife unasked for “advice” (criticism) about her driving, even though she is an excellent driver. I give “advice” (criticism) to other drivers on the highway who can’t even hear me, using descriptive words that I don’t need to use. I “comment on” (criticize) politicians of both parties. I give my students lots of “comments” (criticism) when I grade their assignments, but not much encouragement. In short, I am the Corrector in Chief.

There is a time and place for correcting others. In fact, we have a responsibility to do so. But, as Paul says in Galatians 6:1, this must be done—this can only really be done effectively—in a spirit of gentleness. I am greatly afraid that most of my “correction” is way too ungentle to be worthy of the name “correction”.

One more thing: I also need to practice a lot more gentleness in correcting myself. Self-correction is an important part of healthy self-care. Self-flagellation is not. I need to resign from my self-appointed position as Corrector in Chief. Gentleness is a good quality we need to extend to ourselves as well as toward others.

“This Blessed Moment”

2Cor. 6:1 ¶ Working together with him, then, we appeal to you not to receive the grace of God in vain.

2Cor. 6:2 For he says,

             “In a favorable time I listened to you,

                        and in a day of salvation I have helped you.” (English Standard Version)

¶ Behold, now is the favorable time; behold, now is the day of salvation.

There is a commercial that has a tagline that goes something like this: “When you’re ready to live in the now.” Of course, that is really the only time that anyone can live, isn’t it? However, I am forever tempted to rewrite the past and/or fantasize about the future. Meanwhile, the present stands patiently in front of me, smiling a rather sad smile of regret for my chosen form of stupidity.

I replied to my 12-step sponsee’s report today. He was talking about the importance of the present, and I can only say, “Amen to that, my brother!” I wrote to him as follows:

“Having returned from sunny Sarasota to Ohio, I am also learning that life and God and myself happen where we are, when we are, and as we are. This moment is blessed and is a blessing. I am blessed by receiving it with gratitude and using it well.”

Of course, even though this moment is blessed, it may not be pleasant. Blessings are not always pleasant. The equating of the two is itself unreal and leads to more unreality. Having had a few close brushes with death, I can admit with absolute candor that the moments when you’re pretty sure you’re going to die are blessed, but not pleasant. “Present” may rhyme with “pleasant”, but that doesn’t mean that they are identical twins.

So, how do I live in the Now? I suspect that we usually know the answer to that question before we even ask it. However, living in the Now often involves pain. Right now, as I write this post, my hands are hurting and I want to go back to bed, even though I’ve had a good night’s sleep. Nevertheless, . . .

I don’t know what your own Now looks like right now. It may be incredibly painful or remarkably joyful. Most likely, it is like March weather in the Midwest: Sometimes, it feels like May and the next day, you are back in February. But this much I do know. The only place you and I can live is here, right now, and as we are.

That is where God is, too.

“Regarding this Small Universe, the History of a Man-Made Lake, and My Brother”

“It’s a small world.” (Source unknown, but it is an old saying.)

My sweetheart and I went to a street party where we’re staying. We are on Kentucky Street here on the outskirts of Sarasota. Our place on Kentucky has a lovely view of a man-made lake called “Lake Ibis”. At our street party, one of the permanent residents named Larry gave a brief history of the lake.

There’s a lot I don’t know, but not much that doesn’t interest me, so I listened attentively. I had eaten too many snacks and figured that my ears could burn off most of the 2,000 or so calories I had just consumed in a matter of minutes.

Apparently, according to Larry, the dirt from where our lake is now was used in the construction of nearby I-75, which is less than a mile from Lake Ibis.. And that is when it hit me: My brother worked on a stretch of I-75 back in the 1950s. He moved dirt. In fact, one of my earliest childhood memories is visiting my brother, just up the road. It is entirely possible, I thought to myself, that my brother had something to do with moving the dirt from what is now “our lake” to I-75.

I suddenly felt closer to my brother than I had in a long time. He took his own life over ten years ago. I’ve struggled to forgive him for that. I struggle still.

. . .

Further research indicated that this section of I-75 wasn’t finished until long after the mid-1950s when we visited my brother. By the time Lake Ibis was being dug, my brother was helping to build rough highways through the Outback in Australia. (Yes, he did indeed live an adventuresome life!)

However, even though the facts didn’t line up with my original notion, the truth is that I still felt closer to my brother. I was able to grieve his loss and to move a little further along the long road of forgiveness. Sometimes, even false connections help us to connect. I also felt more lovingly connected to the lake itself.

I am not fond of the New Age Movement in some ways, but it gets at least one thing right: Everything in the world—and probably the universe—is connected. Honoring that connection is important. Dishonoring it is a slow death. Perhaps dishonoring that omni connection is itself a form of suicide.

“On the Writing of One Paragraph”

A friend of mine and I are writers. However, we don’t always write. This is very awkward, since a writer who doesn’t write isn’t a writer. It’s a bit like a person who says he/she is a tennis player, even though that person never plays tennis. (By the way, I just wrote a paragraph! I am a writer!)

Most healthy, life-giving activities involve some teeny tiny regular behavior that we do. For example, this morning I put on my running clothes and went for a walk/run. Am I healthier as a result of doing this? Probably, a little bit. If this becomes a regular discipline, it will be really healthy. I will become (as I used to be) a runner.

To change big things, I need to be willing to be doing little things consistently. Of course, I really don’t want to do little things; I want to do BIG HAIRY AUDACIOUS THINGS!

But here is the truth: Big things are comprised of a lot of little things. Wanting to do big things without paying attention to the little things is like teleportation—a nice fantasy, but not a realistic strategy.

Jesus said that even people who gave a thirsty person a cup of water in his name would not lose his/her reward. Giving a person a cup of water isn’t a huge things—unless, of course, that person is thirsty. Perhaps little paragraphs, little walks, and little cups of water is not so little after all.

“Hermione Released”

A great blue heron was released back into the wild on Monday. Hermione had somehow gotten a hook stuck at her neck. She couldn’t eat. The wound became infected with mites. She was a few hours away from dying.

But someone here at the RV resort where we are staying called the wild bird rescue people. Surgery, antibiotics, and a lot of Loving Care led to her return to Lake Ibis. My wife and I were there when they let her out of her cage and she flew across the lake and landed in her favorite tree.

Those who were watching cried, cheered, and laughed. It was a wonderful moment when my faith in the kindness and caring hearts of human beings was restored. I think I was let out of a cage of cynicism that has developed over the past several years of political and social turmoil.

But above all, I thought of my fellow addicts who are in recovery. We have been let out of our self-imposed cages, free to fly again. Was there some effort on our part? Yes, of course. But then there were our fellow addicts who helped get the hooks out of our necks, who helped us to heal, who fed us with her own experience, strength, and hope when we had none of our own.

And then, of course, there was our higher power. Some of us know that that higher power is called God. And some of us not only believe in God, but also in God’s son Jesus Christ. And we believe that he has set us free.

The word for salvation in Hebrew in the Old Testament is a word which means “to give space or to give room to someone or something”. A lot of people, I am afraid, think that Christianity is a matter of constricting people, of restricting people. Frankly, we Christians often give unbelievers that impression. However, the basic word for salvation is a word which speaks of ultimate freedom and not constriction or restriction. We may need to be in cages for our own protection for a little while during the healing process. But that is very temporary.

Faith in God frees us to fly again, to live again.

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