Have you ever thought of different ways of handling feelings?
Of course, you can stuff them. This, however, doesn’t seem terribly wise. Stuffing stuff isn’t wise when it comes to houses or hearts. Psychologists have been telling us this for a long time, and they are almost certainly right, in my opinion.
On the other hand, you can spray others with your feelings. This doesn’t seem wise either. I have noticed that, when I simply vent my emotions, I don’t feel better. In fact, I feel worse. As my brother said years ago, “I don’t slam the door, because I figure it would feel so good that I would want to yank the #!* thing off its hinges.”
Perhaps there is a third way. What about refocusing emotions?
“Psa. 37:1 Fret not yourself because of evildoers;
be not envious of wrongdoers!
2 For they will soon fade like the grass
and wither like the green herb.
Psa. 37:3 Trust in the LORD, and do good;
dwell in the land and befriend faithfulness.
4 Delight yourself in the LORD,
and he will give you the desires of your heart.
Psa. 37:5 Commit your way to the LORD;
trust in him, and he will act.
6 He will bring forth your righteousness as the light,
and your justice as the noonday.
Psa. 37:7 Be still before the LORD and wait patiently for him;
fret not yourself over the one who prospers in his way,
over the man who carries out evil devices!
Psa. 37:8 Refrain from anger, and forsake wrath!
Fret not yourself; it tends only to evil.
9 For the evildoers shall be cut off,
but those who wait for the LORD shall inherit the land.”
Derek Kidner, in his wonderful commentary in the Tyndale Old Testament Series, summarizes verses 1-8, and makes some telling points in regard to them. “An obsession with enemies and rivals cannot be simply switched off, but it can be ousted by a new focus of attention; note the preoccupation with the Lord himself, expressed in the four phrases that contain his name here. It includes a deliberate redirection of one’s emotions . . . .” [1]
I was especially struck by Kidner’s comment that we can’t simply switch off our “obsession with enemies and rivals.” Furthermore, there is such a thing as “. . . a deliberate redirection of one’s emotions . . . .”
I am increasingly finding this to be true. I really can redirect my emotions.
I used to not so much have emotions, as they had me. These days, if I slow down and think—and, above all, pray—I find that I am much more in control of my emotions than I used to be.
I’ve often heard it said, “Emotions are neither good nor bad; they just are.” This, it seems to me, is be true but not the whole truth. Emotions can lead us toward good actions or bad actions.
I
am not saying that emotions are always easy to redirect. I am not sure that they are ever easy
to redirect. However, I do believe that
it is possible. And redirecting emotions
is so much better than either stuffing or spraying.
[1]https://accordance.bible/link/read/Tyndale_Commentary#22420
DTEB, “God and Weather of All Kinds”
Wednesday, January 9, 2019
Yesterday dawned warm and clear. There was a beautiful sunrise just as I came out of the church where my Tuesday morning twelve-step group meets. A few lovely pink clouds were scudding along the sky, but down below it was very still. It was a wonderful, holy moment. I stood still and knew that God is God.
The day ended with clouds, wind, and plummeting temperatures.
My emotions, like the weather, can change very quickly. In fact, my emotions often change with the weather. I was a bit down in the windy and cold late afternoon. In fact, I probably had Sensory Affective Disorder before it became popular, probably before it even had a name.
But perhaps there is a glory in clouds and cold howling wind as well. An ancient psalm indicates that at least one person sensed this.
“Psa. 148:7 Praise the LORD from the earth,
you great sea creatures and all deeps,
8 fire and hail, snow and mist,
stormy wind fulfilling his word!” (English Standard Version)
Perhaps everything praises God. The psalmist says that even the wrath of man praises God (Psalm 76:10). Perhaps I just don’t have the ears to hear those praises. Fortunately, God does.
God’s “Godness” and God’s goodness are not dependent on either the external weather or my own internal weather. I need to recognize and celebrate this.
Forgiveness is a wonderful thing. It is a wonderful thing to receive and a wonderful thing to give.
However, I wonder if there is something even better.
Psa. 32:0 A MASKIL OF DAVID.
Psa. 32:1 Blessed is the one whose transgression is forgiven,
whose sin is covered.
2 Blessed is the man against whom the LORD counts no iniquity,
and in whose spirit there is no deceit.
Psa. 32:3 For when I kept silent, my bones wasted away
through my groaning all day long.
4 For day and night your hand was heavy upon me;
my strength was dried up as by the heat of summer. Selah
Psa. 32:5 I acknowledged my sin to you,
and I did not cover my iniquity;
I said, “I will confess my transgressions to the LORD,”
and you forgave the iniquity of my sin. Selah
Psa. 32:6 Therefore let everyone who is godly
offer prayer to you at a time when you may be found;
surely in the rush of great waters,
they shall not reach him.
7 You are a hiding place for me;
you preserve me from trouble;
you surround me with shouts of deliverance. Selah
Psa. 32:8 I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go;
I will counsel you with my eye upon you.
9 Be not like a horse or a mule, without understanding,
which must be curbed with bit and bridle,
or it will not stay near you.
Psa. 32:10 Many are the sorrows of the wicked,
but steadfast love surrounds the one who trusts in the LORD.
11 Be glad in the LORD, and rejoice, O righteous,
and shout for joy, all you upright in heart!
Commenting on vss. 8 and 9, Derek Kidner writes,
“This is the Lord’s reply to David (see on 12:5, 6), and through him to the rest of us, since the command of verse 9 is in the plural. Coming where it does, its call for a teachable spirit drives home the lesson of verses 1–5 in a positive form. If forgiveness is good, fellowship is better; if we have experienced God’s heavy hand (4), we should appreciate and seek his gentler touch. But the well-known rendering in AV, ‘I will guide thee with mine eye’, which suggests our responsiveness to his glance, is not accurate, although there is a similar thought in 123:2, where the servant watches for the master’s signal. The point here is God’s vigilance and intimate care, … with my eye upon you; our response is in verse 9.”[1]
I was especially struck by the comment by Kidner, “If forgiveness is good, fellowship is better; if we have experienced God’s heavy hand (4), we should appreciate and seek his gentler touch.”
Yes! Even though this psalm is about forgiveness, it is about so much more. It is about obedience to God, an obedience that should be prompted by the mere loving eye of God.
When I was little—and even not so little—there was a certain look my mom or dad could give me that clued me in to what I should be doing, or, more often than not, what I should not be doing. I could ignore their look, but it usually ended badly when I did. My parents were loving people, who forgave an awfully lot of my stupidities and rebellions. However, I was wiser—and happier—when I heeded “the look.”
Oh,
God, just for today, help me to know that I am forgiven! Help me also to delight in being guided by
your loving heart and eyes! And may all
my readers also enjoy the happiness of being forgiven and of forgiving others,
but also may they revel in the deep joy of your guidance!
[1]https://accordance.bible/link/read/Tyndale_Commentary#22328
I was baptized yesterday.
Yes, I know: It seems quite strange, doesn’t it? I am an old guy who was a pastor for 29 years. I have been a follower of Christ (at least part-time) for many decades. I have taught and still teach at a Christian university. Why on earth would I be baptized?
Actually, this is my third baptism. The first was when I was nine years old. Did I understand everything about the Christian faith? No. But I did understand that I was a sinner, and Christ was the Savior.
I was also baptized when I was twenty-four. I had been pastoring a church for a year-and-a-half, and realized—while preparing a sermon—that I might know a bit about the Bible, but I didn’t really know Christ. I was baptized by my father-in-law in the baptistry of the church I was serving as pastor.
For a long time now, I have been having a desire to be baptized again, to renew my vows to Christ and to the Church. Today I decided to quit desiring, and follow through.
No, I still do not understand everything about Christ. Sometimes I wonder if I even understand much.
But this I do know: Without Jesus Christ in my life, I wouldn’t have one—a life that is.
Some people tend to coast when they get older. I have decided to take the opposite approach. I am too old now to coast. Some people get cautious when they get older. I have decided that I am too old not to take some risks.
I am not about
In the Old Testament, God made many agreements with humankind. These agreements are often referred to as “covenants.” A covenant is a cross between a contract and a marriage commitment. It is binding and has stipulations, like a contract. It is solemn and personal, like a marriage.
I was reading Genesis 9 the other day, when I stumbled upon a secret that was hidden in plain sight. This chapter is part of the narrative of the great flood. You probably remember the story. The world was a mess, and God was feeling sorry that he had ever made humankind. God decided to destroy the world, but also decided to spare Noah, his family, and some of the animals. God was going to start over!
After the flood, God made a covenant with Noah—and with the animals. For some reason, as many times as I had heard and read this story, I had never noticed how explicit God was in including the animals in this covenant. As I already said, this not-so-secret secret is hidden in plain sight.
“8 Then God said to Noah and to his sons with him, 9 “Behold, I establish my covenant with you and your offspring after you, 10 and with every living creature that is with you, the birds, the livestock, and every beast of the earth with you, as many as came out of the ark; it is for every beast of the earth. 11 I establish my covenant with you, that never again shall all flesh be cut off by the waters of the flood, and never again shall there be a flood to destroy the earth.” 12 And God said, “This is the sign of the covenant that I make between me and you and every living creature that is with you, for all future generations: 13 I have set my bow in the cloud, and it shall be a sign of the covenant between me and the earth. 14 When I bring clouds over the earth and the bow is seen in the clouds, 15 I will remember my covenant that is between me and you and every living creature of all flesh. And the waters shall never again become a flood to destroy all flesh. 16 When the bow is in the clouds, I will see it and remember the everlasting covenant between God and every living creature of all flesh that is on the earth.” 17 God said to Noah, “This is the sign of the covenant that I have established between me and all flesh that is on the earth.” (Genesis 9:8-17. English Standard Version, bolding mine)
For some reason, I had always thought of this as God’s covenant with Noah, and of course it is. However, the animals and their descendants were included as well.
Christians are often accused of not recognizing the importance of animals. In some cases, the accusation probably has some validity. However, perhaps our failure to recognize the significance of animals is because we have ignored certain truths from our own sacred Scriptures.
Now, in the interest of full disclosure, I am not a vegan. In fact, I am planning to go out to Outback after church today. I am not planning to have just a salad.
However, apparently there is at least one solemn agreement in the Bible—and I suspect that it is not the only one—that embraces the animals as well as people. Perhaps Radar O’Reilly on M*A*S*H was at least partly right after all. One time, Radar said, “Animals are people too!”
I’m not quite ready to go that far, but animals do matter—more than we are willing to admit, sometimes. Apparently, they matter to the God who created them, too.
One of the spiritual disciplines that I find very helpful is the “3-Minute Retreat” put out by Loyola Press. They are very brief (about 3 minutes long!), and very practical. I was especially appreciative of the one today. It was about forgiving others. (You may access it at https://www.loyolapress.com/retreats/forgive-us-our-trespasses-start-retreat, accessed 01-04-2019.)
The Scripture was “Matthew 6:14: If you forgive others their transgressions, your heavenly Father will forgive you.”
After the reading, the person who was leading the devotional retreat made the following comments:
“Forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us. We pray this in the prayer that Jesus gave us, the Our Father. These are easy words to recite but not always easy to live by. To be forgiven, we must first forgive. This is not a suggestion; it is a condition for being in right relation with God and others.”
I was especially struck by the final sentence: “This is not a suggestion; it is a condition for being in right relation with God and others.” When we try to turn forgiving into a suggestion, we’ve already taken a fatal step, not fatal to the other person, perhaps. But it most certainly is fatal to us.
And then, the retreat master asked a very simple question: “Against whom am I still holding a grudge?”
At first, I thought to myself, well, I’m not holding a grudge against anybody. I should have moved on right then, but I didn’t. I thought a bit more, and my heart sunk into my tenny runners. There are some folks that, though I love them, have terribly hurt my sweetheart. And, yes, as a matter of fact, I do hold a grudge against them. I do struggle to forgive them.
I try to tell myself that this is okay. After all, it isn’t a grudge against someone who has hurt me. It is a grudge against people who have hurt someone I love. Somehow, that seems less selfish and unforgiving. Perhaps it is even noble!
But a secondary grudge is still a grudge. I don’t think that Jesus ever said, “Forgive others, unless they have hurt someone you love.” I would be glad if someone pointed out a verse where he did say that.
So I will begin the long, difficult process of forgiving those who have hurt someone I love. I have no illusions. This isn’t likely to be quick or easy or pretty. However, with God’s help, I will do this.
And so, I leave you with the prayer that closes out this retreat:
“God of mercy, kindle in me a forgiving spirit. Help me to be compassionate and understanding to those who hurt me.”
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