“Stay Teachable; Stay Progressive”

            “Whoever heeds instruction is on the path to life,

            but he who rejects reproof leads others astray.” (Prov. 10:17, English Standard Version)

“A traveller to life [is] he who is keeping instruction, And whoso is forsaking rebuke is erring.”

“Education is change, and change is ‘Ouch!'” (Evelyn Huber)

(Proverbs 10:17 Young’s Literal Translation of the Holy Bible)

Proverbs, in any language, are usually very brief and terse.  Think, for example, of our saying, “Nothing ventured; nothing gained.”  Because they are brief and terse, they are both memorable and (sometimes) cryptic.

What is true of proverbs in general is also true of biblical proverbs and the Book of Proverbs.  (There are proverbs throughout the Bible.  Hence the distinction between biblical proverbs and the Book of Proverbs.)

The brief and terse proverb that is the basis for this post is fairly clear in its broad contours, but somewhat cryptic with regard to specifics.  For example, it is by no means clear whether the proverb warns against rejecting reproof because the person rejecting reproof will go astray, or  warning is against leading others astray.

But do we even need to choose?  It is hard to be a good GPS for others, when you’re lost yourself!  Indeed, it is impossible.

 “Reproof” is an old-fashioned word that we don’t use much anymore.  The modern equivalent would probably fall somewhere between “correction” and “reprimand.”  None of us likes to be corrected or reprimanded, but all of us need that at times.  We need to stay teachable over the long haul.

Derek Kidner comments on this verse, in his usual terse and practical manner, so I’ll let him have the final word:

10:17. Stay teachable, you stay progressive.”  Kidner goes on to say, “Note that the contrast is between keeping and forsaking: i.e. not only must instruction be listened to; it must be held fast over a long period.”[1]


[1] Derek Kidner, Proverbs: An Introduction & Commentary, Tyndale Old Testament Commentaries (Downers Grove: InterVarsity Press, 1964), 88.

DTEB, “Self-Respect”

Years ago, my long-term sponsor encouraged me to do and live out daily affirmations.  It has been, quite literally, a life-changing experience.  Here is my 12-step report to my sponsors for today, and my tentative report for tomorrow:

Dear _________ and _____________,

No violations.

Yesterday’s affirmation: “Today, by God’s grace, I am respecting myself, God, others, all living creatures, and even inanimate objects.  The word (and song) for today is “R-E-S-P-E-C-T.

Here is how I think I did with yesterday’s affirmation: I was respectful to myself, God, and others today, for the most part.  One thing that I can certainly improve on is thinking (and consequently, speaking) of myself in a more respectful way.  My wife pointed out to me yesterday (for the how-many-th time??) that she doesn’t like it when I speak of myself in a put-down-ish manner.

Today’s affirmation: Today, by God’s grace, I am carefully monitoring my thinking and speaking to and about myself.  I am thinking positive thoughts about myself, and I am speaking about myself as little as possible.  But if I do say something about myself, it is kind.

I have begun the practice of writing my report for the next day, right after I send the report for the present day.  This enables me to think about and plan for the outcomes of my affirmation.  I can always revise the draft the next morning, based on what really happened.  So, here is my tentative report for tomorrow:

“Here is how I did:

  • I did monitor my thinking and actions, based on this affirmation.  I committed the affirmation to memory, and frequently repeated it (out loud when I was alone, and mentally when I was with other people).
  • When I was inclined to say something negative about myself, I did the Bob Newhart thing, and said, “Stop it!”
  • I made the decision to listen more to others, and to talk less about myself.  It was great fun!  (And I learned a lot more about others, and gave them the invitation to feel respected by my genuine interest in them.)
  • I thanked God in my daily gratitude list for 10 good things about myself.”

Here is one thing that I did not include in the rough draft of my report to my sponsors.  I will add it.

  • At church, I went to the altar, prayed, and emptied myself of everything.  I feel light enough today to float away.  I know that a breakthrough has to be fleshed out with lots of follow-throughs, and I am determined that, by God’s grace, I will do precisely that.  I will empty myself of my past, my regrets, my sins (real and imagined), and myself, as often as I need to do so.  Then, I will pray that God will continually fill me with his Holy Spirit and with all goodness.

“Stories: Identify Yourself!”

“But Peter said, ‘I have no silver and gold, but what I do have I give to you. In the name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth, rise up and walk!’” (Acts 3:6, English Standard Version)

Today’s “3-Minute Retreat” from Loyola Publishing took Acts 3:6 as its jumping off place.  This is a good verse to jump off from, and to jump into.  The verse occurs in a miracle story in the book of Acts.

Acts tells part of the story of the very early church.  These stories are set in the twenty-plus years that followed the life, death, and resurrection of Jesus.  The stories involve preaching, teaching, people coming to faith in Christ, people rejecting Christ, traveling, and a few miracles.

Acts 3:1-10 tells the story of a miraculous healing of a man who had been born lame.  Perhaps it would be helpful to copy and paste the entire story.

Now Peter and John were going up to the temple at the hour of prayer, the ninth hour. And a man lame from birth was being carried, whom they laid daily at the gate of the temple that is called the Beautiful Gate to ask alms of those entering the temple. Seeing Peter and John about to go into the temple, he asked to receive alms. And Peter directed his gaze at him, as did John, and said, “Look at us.” And he fixed his attention on them, expecting to receive something from them. But Peter said, “I have no silver and gold, but what I do have I give to you. In the name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth, rise up and walk!” And he took him by the right hand and raised him up, and immediately his feet and ankles were made strong. And leaping up, he stood and began to walk, and entered the temple with them, walking and leaping and praising God. And all the people saw him walking and praising God, and recognized him as the one who sat at the Beautiful Gate of the temple, asking for alms. And they were filled with wonder and amazement at what had happened to him.” (Acts 3:1–10 The Holy Bible, English Standard Version

https://accordance.bible/link/read/ESVS#Acts_3:1, italics mine)

The man was begging at the temple gate.  He was carried and placed there every day.  I suppose that he had discovered that people were more generous when they were going to or coming from worshipping God.  In any case, there he was.

When two of the apostles of Jesus, Peter and John, were going to the temple, they stopped and looked at the man.  Probably the cripple had learned the universal language of refusal to help.  The first commandment in this language is “Thou shalt not make eye contact!”  So, when Peter and John stopped and looked at him, the man expected them to give him a coin or two.

But they didn’t have money.  They had something else, something better.  They had the name and authority of Jesus.  And so, they said, “We’re as broke as you are.  However, we do have something.  In the name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth, WALK!”  They helped him up, and the man did walk—just like that!

My “3-Minute Retreat” did not emphasize the miraculous aspect, but took this story (particularly Acts 3:6) in an interesting direction.  They asked two important questions.  These two questions show that the retreat masters were challenging us retreatants to identify ourselves with the apostles Peter and John in this story.

“In what ways can I offer Jesus’ healing presence to others?”

“How might I be a source of God’s comfort to those who suffer illness?”

The prayer that was suggested to close out the retreat also was based on the notion of the participants identifying with the apostles.

“(Speak to Jesus using this prayer or words of your own.)

Jesus, thank you for your healing love. Help me to be an instrument of your comfort and your healing presence.”

The person with whom you identify in any story, biblical or otherwise, says a lot about who you are.  For example, I have usually identified with the lame man in the Acts 3 story.  I’ve never been very self-confident.  I tend toward a “can’t-do attitude.”  I do a lot better these days with this, but it is still a struggle.  However, I have a wonderful wife and friends who come by often, give me a hand, and lift me to my feet.  And wonder of wonders, I discover that I can walk!

However, this retreat challenges me to identify with the apostles.  I am to ask hard questions about how I can help others to walk (or at least crawl) in the right direction.  I am asked to consider what resources I might have that could help others.  And then, there is the matter of doing something about that.

“Violence Instead of Justice”

          “The violence of the wicked will sweep them away,

                        because they refuse to do what is just.”

(Proverbs 21:7 The Holy Bible, English Standard Version,

https://accordance.bible/link/read/ESVS#Jer._10:19)

I was struck by the fact that the violence of the wicked destroys the wicked, rather than their victims.  This is not to say that the wicked do not often destroy (or at least harm) the innocent.  Rather, it is to say that, ultimately, wicked violence destroys the perpetrator of such wicked violence.

Jesus was driving at something very similar when he said, “Those who live by the sword shall die by the sword.” (Matthew 26:52)  Jesus said this when Peter tried to deal with Jesus’ imminent arrest by drawing his sword.  If ever there was a time to draw the sword, surely this was it.  But apparently, Jesus didn’t think so.

This should make us a lot more careful about being violent or unjust ourselves.  Do we really want to be swept away by our own violence and injustice?

It should also make us reluctant to be too harsh with those who are violent and unfair.  I am not suggesting that such violent and unjust people ought not to be confronted and opposed.  They most definitely should be!  However, we need to set aside our judgmental and superior attitude.  The violent and the unjust are ultimately are ultimately destroying themselves, even as they are destroying others.  They have to live with themselves 24/7.  And who wants to live with a violent and unjust person?  We need to remember this, even as we confront and oppose.

“Aging: The Decision to Open Up and Move On”

Erik Erikson identified a number of developmental life stages.  I am in the last one: Ego Integrity vs. Despair.  And I have times of both integrity and despair.

But I get to choose, on any given day (and many times during the day as well) whether I will go with integrity or despair.

The other day, I had a good text message exchange with a friend.  He was telling me that he was rereading The Road Less Traveled, and that, now that he was older, maybe he would be more open to its message.

I replied, “The aging process is, I think, an invitation to either close up and shut down, or it is an invitation to open up and move on.  I’m not sure where I read that, or if I made it up, but I do believe that’s true.  However, we have to either accept the invitation to open up and move on, or turn it down.”

And this acceptance or rejection of the invitation isn’t a one-off.  No!  It must be accepted or rejected many times during the day.  Sometimes, the invitations are to open up and move on in big ways.  Most often, the invitation involves such small things that it is easy to miss the invitation entirely.  These invitations do not come on fancy paper, with gilded envelopes, but all these invitations are significant.

How will I respond to these invitations today?  How will you respond?

“On Staying in Your Own Lane”

“Judge not, that you be not judged. For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you. Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when there is the log in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye.”

(Matthew 7:1–5 The Holy Bible, English Standard Version

https://accordance.bible/link/read/ESVS#Matt._7:1)

“Therefore let us not pass judgment on one another any longer, but rather decide never to put a stumbling block or hindrance in the way of a brother. I know and am persuaded in the Lord Jesus that nothing is unclean in itself, but it is unclean for anyone who thinks it unclean. For if your brother is grieved by what you eat, you are no longer walking in love. By what you eat, do not destroy the one for whom Christ died. So do not let what you regard as good be spoken of as evil. For the kingdom of God is not a matter of eating and drinking but of righteousness and peace and joy in the Holy Spirit. Whoever thus serves Christ is acceptable to God and approved by men. So then let us pursue what makes for peace and for mutual upbuilding.”

(Romans 14:13–19 The Holy Bible, English Standard Version

https://accordance.bible/link/read/ESVS#Rom._14:13)

At the 12-step meeting I attended at noon, someone proposed the top “staying in your own lane.”  This was highly ironic, because I had biked down to the meeting.  There was a nice, wide bike lane, but apparently it wasn’t quite wide enough to suit me.  I veered over to the left a little, just as an SUV was passing.  Almost getting out of my own lane nearly cost me my life.

Even when staying in my own lane is not a matter of life and death, it is still important.  When I am not attending to my own affairs, when I am meddling in things that do not pertain to me, I end up creating irritation in others.  Furthermore, when I am “working” (can it even be called “working”??) on other people’s issues, I am not working on my own.  That’s the main reason that I meddle and judge: to keep me from having to face my own issues.

The Scriptures with which I began this post—one from Jesus, and the other from the Apostle Paul—tell us that we’ve got no business judging others.  Judging others is one form that not staying in my lane takes.

I used to think of myself as not being very judgmental.  Then, I began to work on my own profound issues.  Suddenly I discovered that one of things I needed to work on first was being judgmental.  I was using the real and perceived failings and struggles of others as a drug to medicate my own unwillingness to change the one person I could change: me!

I’ve decided that I will need to remind myself many times each day to stay in my own lane.  The acronym SIYOL! is going to be one of my slogans from here on out: Stay in your own lane!

“God’s Hope”

“For the creation waits with eager longing for the revealing of the sons of God.  For the creation was subjected to futility, not willingly, but because of him who subjected it, in hope that the creation itself will be set free from its bondage to corruption and obtain the freedom of the glory of the children of God.”  (Romans 8:19-21, English Standard Version)

Today’s “3-Minute Retreat” from Loyola Press was based on 1 Corinthians 13:13.

Why is it a problem for God to have hope?  It isn’t, IF God doesn’t know the future.  This is one of the beliefs of an approach to God called “open theism.”  I have some sympathies for that approach, but I still think it is wrong.

In fact, when I asked my wife the question, “Does God hope?” she immediately responded, “How could God hope?  He already knows the future.”

However, there are some verses in the Bible that might suggest that God does indeed hope.  For example, considering the following verses.  I am indebted for these Scriptures (and some very helpful comments) to an excellent online article by the editor of The Baptist Standard.  You can  read the whole article at https://www.baptiststandard.com/opinion/editorials/editorial-does-god-hope/.

Here are some of the Scriptures that Marv Knox listed, along with some good introductory comments:

“In God, hope abounds

That syllogism—God is love; love hopes; God hopes—seems to be a stretch. But it gets to the clear message of Scripture: God is the source of hope; in God—Father, Son and Holy Spirit—hope abounds.

• “Now may the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that you will abound in hope by the power of the Holy Spirit” (Romans 15:13).

• “I pray that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened, so that you will know what is the hope of his calling, what are the riches of the glory of his inheritance in the saints, and what is the surpassing greatness of his power toward us who believe” (Ephesians 1:18-19).

• “… God willed to make known what is the riches of the glory of this mystery among the Gentiles, which is Christ in you, the hope of glory” (Colossians 1:17).

• “Paul, an apostle of Christ Jesus according to the commandment of God our Savior, and of Christ Jesus, who is our hope” (1 Timothy 1:1).”

• “This hope we have as an anchor of the soul, a hope both sure and steadfast and one which enters within the veil, where Jesus has entered as a forerunner for us …” (Hebrews 6:19-20).

• “Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who according to his great mercy has caused us to be born again to a living hope through the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead” (1 Peter 1:3).”

There is not much I can add to Knox’s good comments, except perhaps for this: The Bible clearly portrays hope as a virtue, and as something that God extends to us and requires from us.  If God gives hope, the chances are pretty good that God has hope.  It is pretty difficult to give anyone something that you don’t have yourself.

“Concerning Short-Cuts and Bright Ideas”

“There is a way that seems right to a man,

but its end is the way to death.” (Proverbs 14:12)

My affirmation for today is “Today, by God’s grace, I am praying the Serenity Prayer at least ten times, and living the prayer all day.”

To live something out, I first need to live in it for a time.  There is no shortcut for living in and with someone or something, before I can live that reality out.

And yet, I’m always looking for shortcuts.  For example, . . .

. . . on Friday, my wife wanted to go for a short bike ride, so we did.  It was cloudy and windy and (for Tampa) cold.  But we bundled up and went out for our “short” ride.  Straight down S. Newport to the bay.  The wind was worse along the bay, but it was at our backs.

When we turned around, I realized immediately that the wind was going to be a problem.  So, I had A BRIGHT IDEA!  Why not cut inland a few blocks.  We would be sheltered from the wind, at least a bit, by the houses.

At first, my decision felt pretty good.  The wind and the traffic noise on Bayshore were substantially diminished.  Excellent, I thought to myself!  I’ve had a bright idea that really is bright.

But the brightness of the idea soon dimmed.  The roads along the bay started in one direction, and then took off in another.  Some of them were cul-de-sacs.  The GPS on my phone stopped working.  Finally, I asked a lady out with a stroller how to get to Newport, in Hyde Park.  “Hyde Park is that direction,” she said, pointing the opposite way from the direction we had been going for quite some time.

Well, we started off taking her directions.  They were good—up to a point.  She had told us to turn left on Morrison, but apparently had forgotten that there was another turn before that.  However, my GPS now decided to start working.   We had already had a good deal more than “a short bike ride,” and my GPS informed me that we were 3.7 miles away from our destination.

My wife was really kind about all this.  I think that she could see that I was beating myself up badly for my stupid brilliant idea.  We did make it home, I made her some hot tea and myself some coffee, and (after an hour or two) we got warmed up.

“Do me a favor, sweetheart,” I said.  “The next time I have a bright idea, or want to take a shortcut, just shoot me.”

There is an old saying in chess: “If you see a good move, sit on your hands.”  In other words, “Don’t be premature, baby!”

Bright ideas and shortcuts very rarely are either bright or short.  I have heard it said that a shortcut is a quick way to a place no one in his right mind would want to go.  And as for bright ideas, they are usually about as bright as a burned-out light bulb. There is no shortcut to anything worthwhile.  If I am to live out the Serenity Prayer, I must first live in the Serenity Prayer for a long time.  Otherwise, I will miss the right path as sure as shootin’.

“THE KINDNESS OF CHECKING ON PEOPLE”

“But the fruit of the Spirit is . . . kindness . . . .” (Galatians 5:22)

One really nice form of kindness is checking on people.

A good friend, who is also a faithful reader of these blog posts, had his wife send a text to my wife to ask if I was okay.  I hadn’t done a blog for a couple of weeks, and he was worried about me.

The truth is that I am both alright and not alright.  To some extent, my web silence has been because I’m enjoying the beautiful city of Tampa, Florida.  Also, while it is a lovely city, it seems to take at least 30 minutes to get anywhere, so we’ve doing lots of driving.  (The only exception is my twelve-step meeting which is only an eleven-minute bike ride away from where we are staying.  Sweet!)

Also, I have been working on a scholarly paper, which I am presenting at a conference in a little less than a month.  And then, there is going for long walks/runs with the dog.  And, of course, when you stay in any place for more than a few days, there are dishes to do, and clothes to wash.  Even in paradise, the trash needs taken out a couple of times a week.

But it was good for my friend to check on me.  For one thing, it reminded me to get off my lazy butt—or rather, to get on my diligent butt—and write a blog.  The laziness has an explanation, but no excuse.  The explanation is, at least in part, that I am mourning the closing of the university where I taught as an adjunct for over eleven years.  The truth is that I am also feeling rather sorry for myself.  Mourning is okay; self-pity, not so much.

Sometimes, though, a friend just checking on you helps to blow up your excuses and your laziness and your writer’s block.  Kindness is quiet dynamite.

My challenge today is two-fold: to be grateful for the quiet dynamite that others place under me, and to place some kindness under others.  Maybe this blog post will do that for you.  You have to light the match, though!

DTEB, “Cultivating a Flexible Heart”

Matthew 12 The Message (MSG)

In Charge of the Sabbath

12 1-2 One Sabbath, Jesus was strolling with his disciples through a field of ripe grain. Hungry, the disciples were pulling off the heads of grain and munching on them. Some Pharisees reported them to Jesus: “Your disciples are breaking the Sabbath rules!”

3-5 Jesus said, “Really? Didn’t you ever read what David and his companions did when they were hungry, how they entered the sanctuary and ate fresh bread off the altar, bread that no one but priests were allowed to eat? And didn’t you ever read in God’s Law that priests carrying out their Temple duties break Sabbath rules all the time and it’s not held against them?

6-8 “There is far more at stake here than religion. If you had any idea what this Scripture meant—‘I prefer a flexible heart to an inflexible ritual’—you wouldn’t be nitpicking like this. The Son of Man is no lackey to the Sabbath; he’s in charge.”

I have been struggling with flexibility of late.  No, that’s not the truth.  I’ve been struggling with flexibility all my life.  I was a stick in the mud, addicted to my own little thises and thats by the time I was seven.

Here of late, it has been my neck that has been a primary focus in my quest for flexibility.  When I try to turn my neck, I find it very difficult to do so.  This is a problem because, unlike young mothers of small children, I do not have eyes in the back of my head.  When I do move my neck, my joints make a very interesting grinding sound.

So, I’ve committed myself to the discipline of flexibility.  It isn’t going to be easy.  I’m good at tunnel vision.  I have been practicing it for decades, and have gotten really good at it.  Peripheral vision?  Not so much.

I am going to practice at least three times a day.  Here is what I plan to do:

  • Turn my head upward a little further than is entirely comfortable.
  • Turn my head downward a bit too much.
  • Look to the left until it hurts a bit.
  • Look to the right until that hurts a bit.

Rinse and repeat!

Of course, there is more at stake than my neck.  There is my heart, and mind, and soul.  Cultivating flexibility in all areas of my life is important.  Jesus talked about flexibility to some ancient religious leaders who thought they had everything figured out.

“There is far more at stake here than religion. If you had any idea what this Scripture meant—ʻI prefer a flexible heart to an inflexible ritualʼ—you wouldn’t be nitpicking like this” (The Message, Matt 12:6-7).

Now, of course, I am quite flexible—when things don’t matter to me.  But there’s the rub: Way too many things matter to me.  And I don’t usually stop to ask some important questions.  Why does this matter so much to me?  Should it?  Does it matter to anyone else?  Should it?  Does it matter to God?

A good article on flexibility (and when not to be flexible) is at https://www.biblewise.com/living/articles/the-power-flexibility.php, accessed 02-12-2020).  The whole thing is good, and would repay you reading it—and a re-reading by me.  Here are a couple of paragraphs from Marjorie F. Eddington, that I thought well worth passing along:

“It makes much more sense to be flexible — to “bend” rather than “break.” All we need to do is look at which trees survive storms — the ones that bend. And yet, sometimes we feel so compelled to hold onto our own way of thinking or acting; we are so convinced that our way is the right way; and we refuse to compromise at all. In such moments, we find ourselves at the point of breaking.

Some people even do break … and then they have to figure out how to put back the pieces of their lives (which is totally possible when we yield everything to God). Other people bend at every little thing and never stand up. This isn’t good either, for these people aren’t expressing the strength and dominion God has given them. They end up feeling deflated or insignificant, even worthless.”

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